Who doesn’t want to know how to please their lover? Wouldn't it be great if you could feel sexy and confident and make your lover feel extra special each and every time you are together? One thing that many people misunderstand is that pleasing your lover is not so much about what you do as it is how you do it. Your lover wants to see you feel confident and happy with yourself. It seems everywhere you turn there is someone trying to tell you the secret methods to having great sex or making your lover happy. The movies play up sex scenes and make it look like everyone in the world but you are having fabulous romantic lives.
You don’t have to be left in the dark and you don’t have to be a porn star to know how to properly please your lover. One of the most important steps is to be in-tune with your partner. Be aware of their likes and dislikes- both in and out of the bedroom. The more you know about your partner and the more time and attention you spend with them, the better you will be at pleasing them and making them feel good. It’s give and take in a relationship and you also need to feel loved and appreciated if you are to make your partner feel loved and appreciated.
However, there are many simple things you can do yourself to please your lover and increase the excitement in your love life. These don’t require changing yourself or who you are and they are so simple that anyone who is willing can learn to do them.
Here are 10 red hot ways to please your lover that you can try out for yourself:
Sexy lingerie has long been used as a great way to seduce and excite. New advancements in technology and fashion have brought us better lingerie in more fashionable and sexy shapes and styles and great sizes to fit women of all shapes and sizes. When you wear sexy lingerie that fits you right and accent your best features, you will feel and look great and this will set the stage for pleasing your lover. Sexy lingerie doesn’t just have to be the preemptive to a sexual encounter; you can also just wear it around the home to be more comfortable in it and to set the stage for a sexual event later.
Have you ever experience a sensual massage? This can be a wonderful experience for you as the giver and as the receiver. A sensual massage can be one of the most erotic experiences you and your lover ever have together. A sensual massage between you and your lover does not have to end in a sexual encounter, although it’s okay if it does. Instead it’s meant as a way to allow the two of you to grow closer together through this personal and erotic experience. It’s all about touching and sharing and exploring the body of your partner while making them feel relaxed and at peace.
Aromatherapy can be used in many different ways to help please your lover. There are aromatherapy candles, sprays and incense, bath and body washes, lotions and much more. With all of these different ways to use aromatherapy, you can find different ones that work for you and your partner. You can use relaxing or calming scents with dinner to help wind down after work. There are so many great ways to use aromatherapy for you to explore.
Sexy clothing isn’t just for the bedroom. Sexy outerwear is a great way to seduce your lover all day long. By the time you get to the bedroom, he will be all riled up for you. Wearing sexy outerwear also shows that you are confident in your body and that you feel good with your sexiness. This is a turn-on for both your partner and for you. There are many great options when it comes to sexy outerwear. You can choose from hot clubwear, leather and pleather skirts and pants and even many lingerie items can be worn as outerwear. Get creative and show off your sexy body!
Radiate confidence. Many women (and some men, too) have the problem of lack of confidence. When you show that you have confidence and who you are and what you look like and that you feel sexually confident, this will be a major turn-on for your lover. Too often women play the role of the victim or the “poor me” card hoping that their man will boost their confidence by assuring them of how wonderful they are. When you show your man that you already know that you are wonderful, he will see it as a turn-on.
Talking dirty to your lover is great way to turn him on and yourself. Some people are more comfortable with “dirty talk” than others. If you are not as comfortable with it or have never really done it before, there are some things you can do to help familiarize yourself and become more comfortable with it. Using some dirty talk with your lover in the bedroom is a sure-fire way to please him and keep him thinking about you all day long.
Concentrate on him (or her) while making love, during foreplay and just any time that you are together. The more attention you focus on your partner, the more you will be able to please them. First off, people are attracted to being attractive. When your partner sees how in-tune with him you are, he will be more aroused. But it is also helpful because the more attention you pay, the more you can observe his likes and dislikes. This will make it easier to do what he loves each and every time. Pay attention to his moans and groans, his facial expressions, the way his toes curl, when his back arches and how heavy his breathing is. Each and every detail should be taken in.
Use aphrodisiacs to your advantage. Aphrodisiacs come in many forms- foods, smells and more. You should find out all you can about aphrodisiacs and how you can incorporate them into your love life. You can have a special dinner prepared or aphrodisiac flowers in the room or use scents and smells. There are many options for you and many types of aphrodisiacs. You might decide to experiment with different ones to see what works best for you and your partner. Remember to relax and have fun.
Don’t be afraid to be spontaneous or do something out of the ordinary. It can be a real turn on when you step out of your normal comfort zone and try something different. You may get a sexy costume, leave a seductive note in your lover’s briefcase or place a naughty phone call during his lunch break. Do something different and you are sure to get him in the mood. It can be arousing to both of you to try something different from the normal routine. It breaks the molds of the ordinary and allows you to experiment within the comforts of one another.
Most importantly, you should know how to please yourself. How can you expect your partner to do what you love when you’re not even aware of what that is? Knowing how to please yourself is a great way to please your lover. You should experiment on your own and learn what really makes you feel good. Take time to play with your body and get in touch with yourself so that you can learn what makes you feel good. Then, if you want, you can tell your partner about what you’ve been doing to get ready for him. Then show him when you are in the bedroom. Your love life will soar when you learn what pleases you the most.
Remember that pleasing your lover is supposed to be about showing the other person how much they mean to you and that you care. You shouldn't do things because you think you have to but instead because you want to. When you love the person you are with and you feel connected to them, you will want to do things to please them and in turn, please yourself as well. You should never do anything that makes you feel bad or uncomfortable when trying to please your lover. Remember that there are no guaranteed right or wrong ways, only the ways that work for you and your partner. Enjoy one another and enjoy your time together.